Ariana Grande took to social media this week to complain about an encounter she had with a fan. Grande was with her boyfriend, Mac Miller, picking up food when a fan came up to them. The fan was excited, expressing how much he loved Miller’s music.
Grande wrote this about what the fan did next, “He was loud and excited and by the time M was seated in the driver’s seat, he was literally almost in the car with us,” Grande said. “I thought all of this was cute and exciting until he said ‘Ariana is sexy as hell man. I see you, I see you hitting that!!! Hitting that? The f–k??” she continued. “This may not seem like a big deal to some of you but I felt sick and objectified. I was also sitting right there when he said it.”
She continued to state that “It hurts my heart that so many young people are so comfortable enough using these phrases and objectifying women with such ease.”
A particularly interesting comment coming from the pop star. Here is a taste of her music,
“See you standing over there with your body. Feeling like I wanna rock with your body. And we don’t gotta think ’bout nothin’ (’bout nothin’). I’m comin’ at ya. ‘Cause I know you got a bad reputation”
“Ain’t nobody gonna touch it, touch it, touch it. ‘Cause every time I see you, I don’t wanna behave. I’m tired of being patient so let’s pick up the pace. Take me all the way.”
And a taste of her boyfriend’s music (these are PG-13 in comparison to most of his music),
“Ya know that girl that everybody wants but can’t have fat a**, nice a**, high class. I get the last laugh now cause she under my arm, Lay down hittin’ L lookin’ up at the stars.”
“You textin’ me, addicted, you need me, you miss it. She crazy, she nasty, everyday she harass me.”
I happen to agree with Grande, of course this is not an appropriate way to speak to a women or anyone. Yet, Grande and Miller make their fortunes off of sexualizing women.
What makes it okay for Grande, Miller and other celebrities to sexualize women? Because they are wealthy or famous? They are then held to a different standard. What makes them think that they are above the average person? They think they can say anything they want with out backlash because they deem it “art” or “self expression.”
Grande, you and your boyfriend are not above the average person, your sexualization of women is not art or beautiful or self expression. It is just as repulsive as what that man said to you.
Stop normalizing the sexualization of women in pop songs, which keep in mind children listen to, if you really want to make a difference. Because, the real “war on women” is the way that celebrities such as Grande and Miller talk about women in their music.
If only Hollywood celebrities were as outraged at their own sexualization of women as they were about the “inequality between the sexes” or Trumps comments about women or any other “war on women” they declare.