Once upon a time in a land far away, there was a time when men became knights, respected women, and women appreciated it. Men fought brave battles with the hope of winning the favor of their chosen lady. In return, women would honor their man and treat him with the respect he deserved. While the medieval time was many years ago, that behavior does not have to be extinct. Despite what many modern-day feminists think, it is possible for men and women to co-exist and respect one another.
Knights Long Ago: What is chivalry and is it disrespectful towards women?
When people think of chivalry they may think of knights in shining armor and damsels in distress waiting to be rescued. Others think of it as the readiness to help the weak, with “weak” being the notable word. Modern-day chivalry consists of men holding the door open for women, offering to pay for the meal, giving up their coat when the woman is cold, or other acts of kindness. The problem with chivalry is that people often mistake the kindness of men to imply their weakness, meaning that they need a man in their life.
Since when did women accepting kindness make them look weak? I am kind to those I cherish and therefore, so are men. Showing others kindness is not a sign of weakness or power but showing them that you care about them enough to go out of your way to please them. Some women will argue that men don’t like it when women hold the door open for them. However, this is not true as I personally have held the door open for many men who have appreciated it and did not take it as a sign of their weakness.
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I don’t need a man to validate me but I do appreciate the kindness men have shown me
I am a woman and while I don’t expect men to hold the door for me it always brings a smile to my face when they do. I consider myself a strong and independent woman and am perfectly capable of opening the door for myself. That doesn’t mean I can’t appreciate it when a man goes out of his way to smile and hold the door for me. I consider myself equal to my male friends and know that they feel the same towards me. They do something for me because they want to show me kindness not because they consider me weak and below them.
There is a notable quote that is normally credited to first lady Eleanor Roosevelt, according to Quote Investigator. As it reads, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” This is completely true and applies to many different things including chivalry. Women are not inferior to men unless they put themselves there. Society will treat you how you see yourself. If you consider yourself inferior, it will show and others will likely see you in the same light.”
“However, if you conduct yourself with grace and elegance and hold yourself equal to your male counterparts, you will be seen as equal. As a woman who has experienced it many times, I am happy to report that chivalry is not a lost art and that many women still appreciate it.